Finance, childlessness, job loss are causes of unhappy home
AbdulRahman Adegeye Fausiat Salako-Sanni
June 5, 2023
There are lots of homes that are lacking happiness, true love, peace, tranquility especially at this period that many people are encountering one challenge or the other. Financial, childlessness, job loss to mention but a few are some of the challenges causing marital and family issues in the homefront.
This was identified and disclosed at the Nasfat Lagos Zone 2 biennial women’s conference opening ceremony on Sunday 4th June, 2023 at NYSC Camp, Iyanapaja, Lagos.
The conference traditionally holds every two years across all the Zones in Nasrul-Lahi-L-Fatih Society, Nasfat, but due to the COVID-19 pandemic, the conference couldn’t be held in 2020, so this year’s conference is the first to be organised after COVID-19. About twenty-one Zones are taking part in this year’s conference.
According to the Nasfat National Women Affairs Management Secretary, Alhaja Suwebah Bola Kupolati, “she believes the women at these conferences organised across the 21 Zones of the society would have learnt a lot about how to bring succour to the homefront and the society because Muslim women have huge responsibilities on their shoulders to build their home.”
“This is important because the home,as a unit, makes up what’s called the society, and the society is the Nation we all live in, so what you have is what you’re going to give, you can’t give what you don’t have.”
“The conference for Kwara Zone has been held at Budi Sadu while Lagos Zone 1 held its own on at Owutu in Ikorodu area of Lagos State and Alhamdullillah Rabilliallamin Lagos Zone 2 held its own at NYSC camp at Iyanapaja the same weekend and In Sha’a Allah next weekend will be for Lagos Zone 3, so one after the other the 21 Zones will be toured for this conference.”
“The take away from the conference especially on the lecture tilted “The Essence of Polygamy” is the need for our Muslim women to understand the significance of Polygamy and why Allah SWT, the Creator of all mankind has prescribed it for the Muslim men who can engage in it according to the injunctions of The Supreme Being.”
“This reason for us as Muslim women to talk about this, is that, it is for us to obey Allah SWT, accept polygamy and address it as the need arises at our different homes.”
Peace building was another topic dealt with at the conference, the roles of women in building peace in the homes, family, work places, neighbourhood, community and the larger society so that tranquility and unity can thrive in the land and nation as a whole.
To this end, Muslim women should rise and live up to their responsibilities as Islam permits them, just as it is stated in the various scriptures of Allah through the Qur’an, Hadith of prophet Muhammad (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and the Shariah.
The Zonal Women Affairs Management Secretary, Nasfat Lagos Zone 2, Hajia Aishat Monsunmola Busari in an exclusive interview with KIIN MEDIA disclosed the rationale behind the theme for the 5th Biennial Women’s Conference for the year 2023 tagged “DARUL-SALAAM(Building an abode of peace): Role of Muslim Women” and the activities lined up for the conference.
“The sub-theme discussed at the Luncheon “Muslimah as a child, wife, an in-law and grandmother. This is to touch the different grey areas of female, how do you behave as a child, what’s your responsibility as a wife, how do you relate as an in-law and why are you a grandma to everyone?
All these have been designed to further educate and have practical life interactive session to help in this regard.”
According to Hajia Busari “The theme was chosen to educate our women on the fact that, the home belongs to them, they are the managers of the home, so there’s need to wake our women up from their slumber not to leave their primary responsibility of ensuring that there’s peace in their homes, they should be agents of peace at every where they find themselves because that’s exactly what Islam teaches.”
She continued “We are deeply concerned about what’s happening in marriages, homes, families and society these days, hence, we decided to take the bull by the horn and converge ourselves at a serene atmosphere to discuss these issues as they affect us.”
“You know it’s always said that a problem shared is a problem half solved, so coming together to diagnose, dissect and proffer solutions to the identified matters that affect us as Muslim women, wives, mothers, grandmothers, in-laws is better than leaving it unattended to.”
The four days programme started on Friday June 2 and ended on Monday June 5, 2023. Special Jummat service and visitation to the palace of Chief Olatunji Musbaudeen 1, Baale of Alagba Land on Friday. On Saturday health walk, novelty match among other activities were held while Sunday was the official opening ceremony for the conference, lecture series and luncheon session held as the conference was declared closed on Monday witnessing the departure of the delegates. About twenty branches participated in Zone.
Hajia Busari added, “Broken homes, single parent is very rampant in the society these days and we can’t afford to fold our arms any more and watch this menace continue because Islam enjoins Muslims to support what is good and forbid what’s bad.”
“All these after deep deliberation brought about talking about this matter with a view to addressing it frantically and practically among the women folk because it’s our issue and we need to tackle this for posterity sake because of its numerous aftermath effects especially in the lives of our children.”
Making peace in the home will drastically reduce the large number of broken homes, divorce and single parent syndrome, the women can make it happen.
“We want the home to be peaceful, family to be happy, most especially women.
Though the Qur’an says, that men are the leaders in the home, head of the family but the women are the managers, so managing the home means supporting the head, the leader such that the team will not fail.
The Chairperson of the occasion, Alhaja Sinat Ogunmuyiwa advised the women at the conference to be good role models to their children and to the Society.
In her own words, Dr. Mariam Bolaji Akinbode, opined that the way and manner a Muslimah behaves will have adverse effects on the upbringing of the children, whether to be good ambassadors of Islam at home, school and in the society at large or otherwise and this will reflect on the lives of the children, for parents are like mirrors to their children.
Among other dignitaries at the 4-day programme include the Chief Missioner of Nasfat, Imam Morufu AbdulAzeez Onike, Alh. Busari Abiodun Shittu, Alhaja Faoziat Oladoja, Alhaja Saidat Onike-Azeez, Co-ordinator 1 and 2, Hajia Juwerat Musa, Alhaja Olayinka Banjoko, Alhaja Rakiyah Ibijoke Ajao, Alhaja Bello Sikirat from Oke Odo pipeline Branch.
High point of the event which ended the the 4-day programme was the presentation of certificates, plaque and gifts to outstanding participants at the conference.
Delegate at the conference expressed their joy and gratitude to the lined up of activities at the conference and the Calibre of facilitators they encountered at the different sessions.